Reveal yourself

When I am in a difficult interpersonal exchange I have a habit of either submitting or defending. Neither tactic is particularly useful in resolving conflict. I also find it tempting to seek the counsel of others when I am feeling unsure. This can be useful if the intent is to discover the truth rather than bolster my position. It is a human response to want to seek the path of least resistance (avoid conflict) or to seek reassurance in righteousness (garner support for my position). Revealing vulnerability takes trust. Trust does not necessarily lie in the hands of the person you are revealing yourself to. Trust may be sourced from inside yourself. If your intent in revealing your vulnerability is to allow your heart or intent to be shared and if you trust your own desire to be understood rather than to "win," then you may confidently open up. The outcome of revealing yourself may be that you will be judged, criticized or ridiculed. It might also be that you are seen, appreciated and accepted. Trust that in revealing yourself you completely and freely (without agenda or manipulation) seek to offer your truth. Dare to stand in the discomfort or benefits that follow without attachment but rather witnessing, like a scientist conducting an experiment. Notice what your body is doing. Are you crossing your arms and legs? Is your belly or jaw tightening? Can you stay open and relaxed? Can you trust yourself to be strong yet flexible like a tree — feeling your roots and yet bending to the breeze? Vulnerability is best served with a side of compassion. Understand that it is not everyone's cup of tea. It may be met with hands cupped around the warmth or with a sour face of distaste. If your offering is genuine and from a place of giving then you can trust that it is pure whether accepted or not. Reveal yourself and see what unfolds.